Why Women Enable Disrespect from Men
- Liz Alexander
- Apr 18
- 2 min read
The Good Girl Archetype never asks, complains or makes a scene. She gives, she over-extends, she keeps her abusers secrets. Receiving feels dangerous because of conditions being attached.
By Liz Camilla
Many women find themselves in relationships where respect is inconsistent, conditional, or missing altogether. On the surface, it can look like poor partner choice or bad luck. In reality, the pattern often runs much deeper.
Why does this happen?
According to neuroscience, poor behaviours are shaped by early developmental years and our parental relationship patterns.
It is a learned pattern - shaped by early experiences of how men treat women , especially how a young girl’s father treated women (particularly her mother), alongside social conditioning and how the nervous system learned to feel safe in the unsafe.
1. Disrespect becomes familiar
If a father figure was emotionally unavailable, critical, dismissive, or inconsistent, the body can begin to associate disrespect with normality.
This can create a belief that love must be earned through: Performing, fawning, chasing or over-giving. If sexual abuse trauma was experienced between the ages of 3-5 in particular, a young girl will often use her body as currency in her adult years.
Environments where there was betrayal, addiction, or emotional absence leaves an impactful Father Wound that dictates who a woman is subconsciously attracted to and what she tolerates from men.
2. Approval becomes transactional
Many girls are raised to believe that being chosen or approved of, especially by men, is valuable.
This can lead to:
• Overgiving in relationships
• Tolerating poor behaviour for connection or security
• Prioritising being chosen over being respected
Over time, respect becomes something negotiated - rather than something naturally received.
3. The “Good Girl” conditioning
For generations, women have been conditioned to be accommodating, agreeable, and easy to manage.
This still shows up as:
• Avoiding conflict
• Minimising needs
• Staying in situations that don’t feel right
Why the pattern repeats
You can know you deserve better.You can want healthier relationships.
But if your system still links familiarity with safety, you will continue to allow what feels known.
This is why mindset alone doesn’t shift it. We need to address your neurological wiring connected to trauma, through a powerful and non-traumatic Shamanic energy healing approach.
Changing it at the root
Real change happens when you work with:
• Early relationship imprints
• Nervous system responses
• Childhood beliefs around love and safety
When this shifts, everything changes.
You stop negotiating your worth.You recognise misalignment faster.You choose differently -naturally. By making excuses for toxic men, you are enabling your own abuse. This ends when you are no longer afraid to see who this person truly is.
A more personalised approach
My Tailored Healing works directly with your unique relationship templates - including what you have inherited, experienced, and learned from childhood.
This is not a one-size-fits-all session. It is designed around your patterns, your history, and your emotional landscape.
This session supports:
• Shifting core relationship imprints
• Rewiring patterns formed through early experiences
• Feeling safer with respect and healthy intimacy
• Rebuilding confidence in your choices
With love,
Liz Camilla
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